The Hardest Thing to Prove

So I was attempting to learn this song today on guitar...

which is a bit ahead of my skill level but it is introducing me to some cool chord voicings lol. Anyways these lyrics hit home for me as I'm sure they do for many and the song got me to start thinking about love. And what's the strongest human expression of love? That's right. Marriage.

The idea of marriage seems great and I really look forward to it, should it come my way and I step out on faith (I pray that it does and that I do). But of course there's a lot of romanticism that puffs up the idea, especially in the Christian community. This might sound kind of strange considering that those who believe in and follow God should, in theory, understand His design of marriage best. I don't believe that's necessarily true. It's just that we have supernatural help should we choose to submit and ask. But that's another thought for another time.

Yes, Christians tend to romanticize marriage. Women in particular tend to place their hopes in finding that perfect guy, or in many circles, specifically that perfect guy finding them. I definitely agree that people should not just settle for whoever is around because they are lonely, and getting into a relationship with someone who is that much less spiritually mature than you can be detrimental to one's well being. I'm not touching that, that's gold. But here's some things to think about:

• Love grows: You should find someone who loves you, but if you expect them to love you perfectly when you first meet them, you should probably rethink that. It's contrary to our culture's perception of love, but marriage is designed so that as you grow old with your partner, your love grows.
• Love is a commitment: It's only through a commitment that two people can grow in love. Without dedicating yourself to someone in some way, shape, or form, you will get sick of them and decide to leave when they "mess things up" or when they don't meet your standards. When you say "I will live my life with you regardless of what happens" it creates a foundation of grace where both parties can learn from their mistakes and grow in their patience.
• Love is God: Whatever it is you're looking for in a man or a woman is not gonna be your saving grace. Yes there's got to be a reason why God looked at man before creating woman and said, "No, this won't do," but if you let your significant other be your source of love, you will be unhappy very soon. Think of it this way: If marriage is when two become one flesh, seeking your spouse as your source of love is like being single and seeking yourself as your source of love.

I feel the need to sandwich these meaty points with the bread of what I shared earlier. This doesn't mean you shouldn't look for someone who is dedicated to loving you and knows who Love is. That is gold and I'm not touching that. I just feel like the whole picture gets overlooked sometimes.

Oh look at that, I started preaching. And yes, I am barely out of my teens. Deal with it haha.

Now honestly, I share these points because I have been bound by them for a long time. Because I can at times be very sensitive about my maturity in Christ, to the point where it becomes an idol, I trick myself into thinking I am light-years away from any type of romantic commitment. Writing this out is a kind of therapy for me really. If the woman's issue is expecting their "man" to be their perfect "knight-in-shining-armor", then perhaps the man's issue may be "how do I or could I respond to such a radical call?" Think about it. That may be why for many guys it’s a lot more “desirable” to have a partner but not define the relationship with a commitment.

Ok, one last thing though. Sorry I just had to do it haha. Every Christian girl out there is "waiting for their Boaz" right? Girl, have you read Ruth? She did not wait. She sneaked into his room when he was sleepy and tipsy aaand.... well you should read it for the context. I'm just sayin, get the story right. Boaz was pretty old too. If I remember right he was old enough to be Naomi's husband.

Wait a minute...

Who else knew about this?

John 11:45-53:

Therefore many of the Jews who had come to visit Mary, and had seen what Jesus did, believed in him. But some of them went to the Pharisees and told them what Jesus had done. Then the chief priests and the Pharisees called a meeting of the Sanhedrin.
“What are we accomplishing?” they asked. “Here is this man performing many signs. If we let him go on like this, everyone will believe in him, and then the Romans will come and take away both our temple and our nation.”
Then one of them, named Caiaphas, who was high priest that year, spoke up, “You know nothing at all! You do not realize that it is better for you that one man die for the people than that the whole nation perish.” 
 He did not say this on his own, but as high priest that year he prophesied that Jesus would die for the Jewish nation, and not only for that nation but also for the scattered children of God, to bring them together and make them one. So from that day on they plotted to take his life.

So this is the section in the gospel of John right after Jesus brings Lazarus back to life after being dead for 4 days (the text even said his body was starting to smell. In the next chapter he's chillin eating a meal with them!). Though that's incredibly amazing, it's not the "wait a minute...." realization I had.


The Pharisees tend to have many negative connotations on them. And rightfully so. They were labeled as "hypocrites", a "brood of vipers", and "self-righteous" by John the Baptist, a messenger of God as well as Jesus himself. Yet despite all this God chooses to reveal specifically to the high priest that very year, the holy calling of Jesus as Messiah.


For some reason I never knew this: that even though the Pharisees were corrupt people that brought Israel away from it's original God fearing roots, God was still choosing to have them represent Him. In his faithfulness and patience, He never stopped honoring his commitment of delegating his authority to them.